So I've been a bit lazy about updating this blog and part of being lazy has been me sitting back and doing absolutely nothing.
However, I am now behind in a number of things that I should have done last week, consequences happen when you don't do what you are supposed to do.
The punishment needs to fit the crime. I certainly believe in punishment, and I've been known in the past to be a little more than creative to get around simple excuses such as:
"I don't have any toys"
"I didn't realise that was a rule"
etc etc etc etc etc
The way I do it
MAKE YOUR RULES CLEAR
get that? Let me try it again.
MAKE YOUR RULES CLEAR!!!!
There is nothing worse than punishing a slave and them not knowing what they are being punished for.
"Because I felt like it" isn't how I work with punishment personally. In the past I've gotten slaves to confess to things and punished them for those confessions, but there has always been a reason for the punishment.
"I spilled hot tea all over your floor Mistress"
"Well then you better get down there and lick it up"
*wait for slave to complete punishment then look down at them*
"Why did you lick the floor?"
"Because I spilled the tea Mistress"
"What have you learned?"
"To be more careful Mistress"
Now, you will notice that this technique is similar to SuperNanny. The reason for this is because it works.
step one: Identify the punishable offence
step two: Come up with a punishment that fits the crime
step three: carry out punishment
step four: Check that the submissive understands why they are being punished
step five: finish it. Don't keep bringing up the past.
I have rules/expectations that those who serve me abide by. They are simple and straight forward including things like respect and loyalty. For long term and contracted slaves, they each have their own set of rules/conditions that I expect will be followed. I make certain that these rules and expectations are understood and that basic punishments are outlined in the contract.
The trick here is to never, ever, ever rush into contracting a slave. Take the time to talk things over and make certain that you are BOTH on the same page as far as service is.
The punishment fits the crime (and the slave)
Here is an example of a punishment that I once gave out.
- A slave had broken a basic rule and been disrespectful too me in public. I stripped her naked, put her on a cross and, after warming her up, gave her ten hard strokes with my punishment paddle. After doing these marks, I continued flogging her, did some sensation play, etc etc etc. After an awesome session there was after care of cuddles and water and giggling at her in dreamy subspace.
Here are the problems:
- Didn't establish where punishment ended and play began
- No follow up to enforce the rule
- Slave is a pain slut, was actually not worth using the punishment paddle
I've said it before, there is no point punishing a man by putting him in a dress and heels and sending him shopping for tampons if he gets off on it. That isn't a punishment, it's a turn on. This is why it is so very important to communicate with your slaves, it isn't about them wasting your time, it is about learning how to manipulate and control them best. I keep files on everyone that I have played with that I review and add too in order to keep specific details about them. What they liked, what they didn't like. How they responded to new things.
Examples of punishments fitting crimes:
Slave does not complete task set - Slave has to complete task before any more contact with Mistress is given
Slave fails to pay on time - Slave has financial penalty imposed for failure
Slave breaks/ruins new dress/underwear/clothing - Slave fixes/replaces items
You might notice how these are proper punishments that are in direct relation too the problem.
There are other ways to punish slaves:
Say you set a writing task and say clearly before hand - "For every typing error you make, you will be lashed/caned/beaten 10 times with (insert particular item here) on your (insert body part here). Just remember that if the slave returns their assignment full of mistakes that are obviously a way of getting you to punish them then you should do the opposite. Nothing worse than a slave trying to manipulate you into doing what they want you to do.
But I am online!!! What if the slave doesn't do what I say?????
This is a tough one. You can do cam sessions to verify that they are giving themselves the punishment if you deem that it should be a physical one. Then get them to take photos and send them too you.
Honestly, if a slave isn't willing too do what you have ordered then you can take a couple of different paths:
- Discuss with them why they are unwilling to administer that particular punishment - IE Marks that may be visible to a partner or work colleague.
- Discuss WHY you believe that the punishment is important. Show of trust etc and listen too them as well. Communication is very important.
- If the slave continually refuses to complete tasks/punishments then you will want to consider letting them go.
But he pays me occasionally... shouldn't I keep him just incase?
That is up too you. Honestly, if someone signed on long term too serve me under a contract then continually broke that contract then I would dismiss them.
If it was a consensual blackmail contract then I would, and HAVE followed through on my end of the contract.
Remember if you say that you will do something, then you need to do it. There is no point threatening and threatening and then not going through with the punishment. Say what you mean and mean what you say. Do what you promise and expect the same from those who serve you.
Yep, that about covers it.
What are some punishments that you've done and why did you do them! I love comments!